But you still have to do it right. The first things first, you have the conversation early, as in the genre before the wedding date. In fact, I`ve heard stories of sobbing and wobbly brides who have signed a series of documents that the shy brides and grooms jumped on just before they walked. (Word to the wise: such “forced” prenupes are in any case much less likely to succeed in court. So, there.) In fact, there should be a discussion before the engagement. When our guy is on his knees, or we watch every bite of the Tiramisu restaurant, whatever the proposal, we want to know what kind of wedding we say yes to. “This agreement is between Antony Chacko and Anjali Agarwal, who are considering marriage. The parties recognize that there may be unfortunate differences between them,” the document states. Subsequently, assets, debts, real estate, general property, ancestral real estate, etc.
(whatever that means) and resilient will be listed. Instead, just say what The Bangladeshis say to themselves all the time: “Swalpa adjust maadi.” Please, this is not the case. Now that you have found someone to represent you, also ask your future spouse. “It`s really important that both parties have their own lawyers to advise them specifically on the terms and provisions of the agreement,” said Raymond Hekmat, a Beverly Hills lawyer who specializes in prenupes. And not just any lawyer, but someone who understands family law. “Some people go to business lawyers or estate planning lawyers, and many of these prenuchers lack the nuances of family law that are important to include them in a valid marriage agreement,” he adds. My friend Julie`s husband announced on the third day that he was a Prenup guy. “Before we were serious, he mentioned that he would never marry without anyone,” she tells me. “So I was conscious from the beginning. And I felt good. Think about it: if you`ve anticipated an open marriage (you know, the way you fuck a lot of people?), maybe you`d talk about it before you ask your lady to marry you, yes? The same logic applies to the prenup request. These are the most important things you should put into a marriage agreement: “Instead of signing a prenup, why not wait for both until you`re ready to adjust to the storms of a marriage,” I say softly. The kind of partners who want to deprive their spouse of something in a marriage — emotionally, in practice and financially — and instead look for No.
1 are rather unhappy and divorced. If it`s your goal to get married, go ahead and get a prenup. But if you want to experience the best of what marriage has to offer, you will find a partner willing to give you everything and do the same for them. Your chances of finding bride bliss will be greater than your Prenups colleagues. Julie`s husband may have mentioned Prenups on the third date, but they only came in the week of their wedding to sign one. “We got bogged down in our lives and planned the ceremony,” she says. “But then, on the week of the wedding, we negotiated each other`s lawyers and masked our anger in legal language, and it was incredibly tense and strange.” The silver lining? “When mine was signed, I never had to think about it again.” It depends on how long you wait. If you wake up one day five years after your wedding and decide to throw the ball on a post-marriage snack contract, all the fortune or fortune you have acquired during those five years since you exchanged your vows will be considered marital property – since there was no prenup that decided that this was not the case.